Finding your perfect match always feel like searching for the Holy Grail. Sometimes we choose lovers that do not conform to our identities —only to end up, later, in a pool of despair, unhappiness and regrets. When I say ‘conform’ I don’t exactly mean that your identity should be ‘similar’ with your lovers identity. In fact, it’s better if it will be the opposite.

The law of attraction

Whether you are the extrovert, introvert, inquisitive or cautious, your traits or identity really matters when it comes to choosing the love of your life. More often, when it comes to relationships, the law of magnetic attraction plays major role —unlike poles attract each other. I don’t want to tell you what happens when you bring together the like poles of two magnets.

So, why you should look for someone of your opposite in terms of traits and interests? Because it will be more comfortable dealing with them. Plus it brings in the virtue of respect and it helps to maintain peace and sobriety in the relationship.

You may be tempted to look for a life lover among your friends and acquaintance with whom you share similar characteristics, similar interests, or even similar occupation. But the question is, who will be listening to the other if you all know and do the same things? These kind of relationships are never a smooth ride. There are plenty of relationship failures from people of same talents, occupations or interests, —like celebrities who marry fellow celebrities.

If two people in a relationship like and know the same things, then that relationship will be unbearable because none will be interested in the other —no one would want to listen to the other —because you both know.

Therefore, unlike in friendships where we pick people whose level and interests are same with ours, in relationships we go slightly for the opposite. It is important that you choose someone who is not at the same level or field as you because these kinds of relationships rarely works.